Do black clouds hang over certain people? Or is luck and life all a state of mind.
I do wonder really just how many kittens Patrick and I must have kicked in an other life.
I am not doing a poor me. There are plenty of people out there with way shittier lives and with bad shit happening…but it hasn’t been pretty.
We have faced a lot here…rather my husband has. I am frankly tired of it. If there was some one or some thing that I could point blame at right now…I would kick its annoying little ass.
Take the previous week. The week my hubs had booked of for a little ‘staycation.’ Time to relax, work on other projects, time with family, yadda yadda.
We did manage a family swim last Monday. Then Adam started to sound sicker and sicker. Then Patrick said he was feeling worse and worse. He ended up with an infection and on antibiotics. Adam had a fever and a sore throat and chest congestion. My MOM went out of town on Wednesday….Adam and Caity were supposed to cat sit. Adam hasn’t been really able to……I was in a fury trying to get the cat in late Wednesday night and stood on a pine cone and BADLY sprained my ankle.
It is still swollen.
Fun huh?
Then there were ‘issues’ with Patrick’s Grandmother…the poor woman has dementia and our senior care is NOT what is should be.
Mind you, from talking to neighbours…I have heard NOTHING but bad news from people.
Makes you feel a tad jumpy about what is next!
I don’t even think some people have worse luck…I do believe we all have to make life what we want it to be..HOWEVER I do think that some people, out of sheer circumstance of birth have perhaps LESS to worry about sometimes….less of a struggle over somethings than others do?
From grim things like my mom not being married or divorcing a man who had ANY money. Or for being in a family that has never had BIG money set aside for future generations or long lost relatives leaving us in wills ….nothing.
Both sides of our family came from working class people with very little EXTRA means to share down the generations.
No windfalls for us.
To stay grim….we have all lost loved ones too young too early. We have watched people hurt and suffer. We have hurt and suffered.
I also tend to have a chronic case of the what if’s….I have struggled to NOT do this….especially since I had children…THEY are my miracle.
They are my joy and my blessing and so I try to not dwell on the negatives for fear that even WORSE things will befall us and I don’t even want to think about it.
My family is my everything…..and for that I have to be happy.
I just wish we had some other littles boosts of ‘luck’ here and there to keep us all going….that’s all.
Just so it all doesn’t feel like a bit of a slog all the time…Does that make any sense?
Where is that winning lottery ticket when you need it?
I believe that there is randomness in life, I don’t believe that good equals good or bad equals bad. There is no explaining why some people have babies that die, they aren’t bad people, they didn’t do bad things. Randomness is just a part of life. You make certain decisions and they have impact but you can’t control all external factors. I do not believe that karma is the underlying factor that determines how we experience life.
It sounds like you need some cheer in your days right now! Here is to hoping that some happy moments come your way. Even if they are in the form of cupcakes 😉
I don’t know why things happen the way they do. I have no good answers. But I will say that I hope your next week is better than your last. It sounds like you need it!
It drives ,e insane when people pull this line out, “We’re all born of equal opportunity”… No. We’re not. Some people are born with a silver spoon in their mouths, you know.. to borrow from a song from before my time. I ain’t no fortunate son. Sounds like you aren’t either.
And there are some self-made fortunate sons. Not a lot, but a few. They’re generally the same people who pick a young mother out of a grocery store lineup and pay for her groceries for no reason. They’re the same people who end up running charities. They’re the people who make it count.
But I’m not much of a religious person, and even that big book says something about people with money and riches being people of little substance. I don’t believe that that has to be entirely true, I don’t believe that our paths are chosen by the riches that we have or don’t have, rather with what we do with what we are given.
That’s not to say that we’re not allowed to get fed up with the trials and tribulations. We all get discouraged. Just know that you’re not alone. 🙂
I totally hear what you are saying. It is so easy to see what we lack and who’s constantly screwing us over. My husband has some major issues with always being given the short end of the stick and emotionally it has been really tough for him. And yes, no windfalls for us either. It has made us resentful of our friends who have parents who spend lots of time with their kids. My mom would prefer to ride her bike than visit with our kids and my husband’s family lives far away and doesn’t give a crap about any of us. But I can tell you that karma is real. We recently acquired a fairy godmother who waved her magic wand and helped make all of our debts go away. It’s been a struggle to get here though. because even when you get what you want there can be strings attached, or at least feel like it. And when you aren’t used to getting anything in life, when someone does give you a gift it can certainly feel strange and make you feel guilty for accepting. Life is just what it is. As simple as that sounds that is all I go on these days.
Crunchy carpets, please stop trying to blame your problems on what you percieve as luck or fate. Ever heard the saying you make your own luck? Just because you have a few problemsin your otherwise perfect life doesn’t mean some malicious force is out to get you and frankly this article is offensive. Stop complaining please, this level of self pity is almost sickening, you are far better off than countless numbers of others and instead of writing a post complaining about small problems that EVERYONE goes through how about being thankful for what you do have and keeping your mouth shut before some assume you are ignorant. Thanks.
OUCH!