I am a Stay – at – Home mom…have been for a verrrry long time now, apart from a brief foray into part time here and there.
And I like it. No really..I do! I suck at it…but I like it.
I am a fairly solitary person and my kids company is about all I can really handle on most days.
I have always been a bit confused by the mom’s who are out every day, pushing strollers to coffee shops or whatever and stating they would go mad being at home all the time.
I actually like being at home…disaster that it is….I enjoy my own company.
And I did all the new baby and mommy activities, and that was fun.
Blogging and the internet is my connection mostly to other adults and grown up conversation…that and my husband..which brings me to my point.
I have mostly been a sort of cheater stay at home mom. My husband has worked from home for most of our children’s lives. I have had help and company for most of my parental incarnation.
It has only been in the last year and a bit that he has been working outside of the home.
This is my first time being alone at home with a baby around. Seriously.
I grocery shopped with Tara today….I fought her into the Baby Bjorn in the back of the car (GOD WE NEED A MINIVAN!) and got my cloth bags and a stuffed a bottle in my pocket and off I went.
And realized that apart from picking up a few bits and pieces alone with her before…this was really my first shopping with baby totally solo!
I got many sympathetic smiles and ‘been there’ comments from women while I was there…cept from my neighbour and mother of SIX, who just laughed at me.
And laugh she should…How can I look like a total newb at 40 on kid no. 3!
Perhaps I had been alone with the kids from the get go, I would be rushing to coffee shops and meet ups more.
I have been totally spoiled in my parenting between work at home dads and my early retired mom.
And my heart goes out to those moms that don’t have social or support systems.
However I am jealous of the moms out there who have amazing babysitting/family or husbands who have more time to watch kids while they go out and do non parental things.
I really really do need to mix with grown ups more.
I am starting to get those other moms out there.
Specially with my older kids rotten school schedule…my days are full and clash with all sorts of things and that is really sucking…and I have to survive to next June too. Blech.
Amber says
When my first was a baby my husband worked at home as a freelancer most of the time. This time, he’s worked full time outside the home. It’s really a totally different world, I have to say.
clara says
You do build a whole other routine when there is another adult around. Some Mondays I breathe a sigh of relief when my husband goes back to work so I can have MY routine back. I have also realized lately how much support I counted on from my mom, now that she is injured and can’t get around so easily…
my kids (and me) would go batshit crazy if we didn’t go outside every day. even just around the block. which is because of the routine I built to keep myself sane way back when at home with just one.
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Allen Kamagra says
I’m a full time worker. My wife is home with our first baby. It’s really difficult for her when the baby is “handy” )) But she likes such kind of time spending. The situation is much better when grannies come to visit us.