Until I had kids, Fathers Day had been a bit of an abstract concept for me. I lost my father when I was a teen. Our relationship and my memories of our relationship are all a bit foggy..marred by alcoholism and parental wars.
I recall him being a good dad, but the emotional connection to this ‘special day’ is not really there.
For my husband, this …like Mothers Day too..is a painful reminder that his parents are no longer with us, and were taken from him far too soon.
So it is a bittersweet celebration for him….but for the kids..it is a BIG DEAL.
I already had to explain that 8 am on a Sunday was a bit early to present gifts. That on Father Day AND Mother’s Day…a special part is letting that parent have some PEACE!
Patrick is like me this year though too, we are not focused on this Hallmark Holiday…we are distracted by birthday plans for Caity and flipping around babies and worrying about cramming in all the other things we need to do in the next busy few weeks.
However…it can not go unnoticed.
And Patrick IS an awesome Father.
As a partner, he is and always was a hands on guy. I never ever feel like I am parenting on my own..it is a team effort and I do not know what I would do without him.
I ENJOY parenting with him. He helps my confidence, he helps share in the sometimes MISERY of it all, he makes being a family feel amazing.
I love watching him with the kids….at play or dealing with serious issues…I LOVE watching him being a dad.
I honestly love it.
I love the way he talks to the kids.
I love seeing him under a pile of kids. His warmth and love radiates from him.
His children feel safe and secure and loved by him.
(even though they will still come and find me to ask inane questions when he is right there – that mom thing..go figure!)
I love being a family with Patrick.
We are a fairly insular little group….bu we enjoy our own company. We enjoy doing things as a family..even the most mundane, even when the kids are being total tools….we are happy in each others company.
And really….how many men are willing to try even the WEIRDEST suggestions to get this soon to be member of our family to flip over in the right direction!? Yes, apparently this girl is breech. After a non stress test and a quick peek via UltraSound on Friday, it was confirmed that she is sitting up instead of upside down. We have a feeling she will flip around as she is an active baby but are going to try shifting her on Wednesday as they (OB’s and Midwifes) fairly sure I will be heading into labour soon. So right now we gotta try all the ideas out there to move her.
That is MOXIBUSTION. It is a Chinese Herb. You burn it. Actually, you make it into a glowing hot tip and point said hot burning tip at your little toes….apparently this gets baby excited and active and encourages HER to turn around and hopefully facedown before the big DUE DATE.
You have to do five minutes on each to for a few times and repeat about three times a day.
But apparently it does work.
No kidding.
This is the sort of thing he does for me.
This is why I love him.
Happy Fathers Day
mo-wo says
But did he do your feet? NO seriously. What a lovely post. Don’t we all wanna make our men read that to pick on tips.
Brie says
Hi, had to comment. We did moxibustian. Our daughter was breech. I don’t know if that was what did it or if it was the pulsatilla (homeopathy) but she did turn. Good luck!