I don’t do confrontation well. My brain shuts down and I don’t say what needs to be said right away.
It leaves me shaking and angry and takes a long time for me to calm down.
I am still shaking and angry. I will be for quite some time.
We live in a court..a circle of town homes. Our kids all play outside with the other kids…all together.
Whether you want them to or not.
My son has played with this one boy since we moved here. Mainly because the boy is only a few month older.
However, they always fight. Always end up bickering.
It has gotten worse.
What has also gotten worse is the neighbours feelings towards us. The mother is a bit of a gossip. But we used to have ‘some’ fun hanging out together as parents watching the children play together. The kids went between houses.
She didn’t seem too impressed when I took on doing childcare for this other neighbour. This OTHER neighbour annoyed her greatly and she trash talked her quite a bit.
Then we lost Scott.
Then we didn’t feel like hanging out and yakking with people.
I also stopped doing the childcare. The mom asked this other mom if she could do it. They became all smiley and supportive of one another and I was given the cold shoulder.
I didn’t care…have been too focused on my own family to really give a crap about these people. I only make nice for the kids sakes.
They all go to school together and play together. Except when the other parents are now making sure their kids DON’T play with my kids.
However, there have been more and more confrontations.
I was told by this woman that I wasn’t the same (no shit) and that I didn’t hang out and ‘everybody’ was talking about this.
I think what she meant was that I wasn’t around to share gossip with enough.
What I also noticed this summer, was that my son….crazy and emotional as he is….played just fine with LOTS of other kids. Was even told by a parent one day that he was a ‘delight.’ The issues arose when he played with HER kids.
Today Adam came storming in covered in what looked like cream blush.
He said that this boy had jumped him ‘in fun’ and covered him in it…even when he said no.
This apparently escalated into a fight where Adam called the other boy things like ‘stupid head’ and they supposedly fought.
Adam came storming in and I later found out that the other boy did the same. SHE sent them over to me…with her and another mom in tow. She did this, she said, because WE had come over before about another confrontation and apparently WE were in wrong about that too!
After much snarking it sounds like the boys fought and Adam kicked and so on….I made Adam apologize for that…told him that if stuff like that happens…don’t hit or hit back, but come straight to me..THAT is the rule.
SHE made out that my son was violent and that since he tried to kick her son in the balls, her poor boy would have to wear a cup for protection.
I will let that stupidity sink in for a bit.
These boys are six.
My son is not violent.
He also plays nice with MOST kids….mostly he is a normal six year old.
The older boys…one is the older brother….a sneaky sly kid….states that they tried to stop the boys.
Adam said that they were shouting ‘fight fight’….the boy quickly backtracked and said that maybe they did..but they stopped when they saw things getting bad.
Sigh.
The one boy is a kid who my son idolizes.
Who already broke his heart by laughing when he couldn’t fasten his pants at school once.
This shit really really breaks MY heart.
Living in a court like this feels now like we are surrounded.
Our every move is seen by these people. We are now hemmed in by people who really really piss me off.
It is bad enough that the kids all go to school together. That I have to see this woman not only at home but at the school everyday.
I would happily make sure Adam never played with these people ever ever again..but how?
And in his innocence, all will be forgotten and forgiven.
While THIS woman stews…..I could tell she was stewing when we went to get the kids today.
God knows why ME keeping to myself is such an affront.
But seriously….don’t mess with the kids…..don’t poison yours and don’t hurt my kids.
And don’t make out like MY kids are any worse than your own.
Which she keeps doing.
“Now, Kerry..Adam is no angel.” What does that mean??? He is six!!!
He gets in trouble for being sullen and having hissy fits.
That is pretty much it.
I am beyond angry right now.
And I have no intention of making nice. I tried once…..and can see that isn’t enough.
However, this woman is dangerous.
Last year she claimed to be the ‘victim’ of some unbalanced woman. She told us she was totally the inocent victim. And again..it was to do with her kids and who they were playing with at school. The family apparently had to move.
LOVE LOVE LOVE living here.
shaz says
omg, how totally ridiculous! i avoid talking to other parents exactly for this reason, some people act like their kids ARE angels and capable of no wrong whatsoever and hence it MUST be the other kid and parent that are at fault. and yes, they miss the fact that they are both KIDS! i don’t know how you can deal with the situation, i feel for you. hang in there!
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Shannon says
So sorry you’re dealing with this BS! That is so frustrating!
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QuiltNut says
omg Kerry, there is no way i could have kept quiet. what a bunch of fruitcakes
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Violet The Verbose says
Oh man, I am so sorry you have to deal with this. I can’t imagine – I would feel imprisoned at home too. I hope that things resolve somehow soon, or you find other places to go – though having places for the kids to play at home is invaluable. In the mean time thank goodness you’ve got the internet for an outlet… hugs!
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Claudia says
UGH, Im sorry that this is going on.
I had to calm down my nephew over some similar things, but involving his older cousin (a girl) who said to her mother all the time that he “hit” her.
I basically suggested that maybe the two shouldn’t even be playing together because
1) no one SEE’S anything. so unless one of you sisters is out there watching them, this shit will continue to happen.
2)there is no way of really knowing what happened and who told the truth. (Both of the moms are saying the other kids are liars. sigh)
Not a fun thing to slag through…
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Nicole says
Well, that just settles it. You’ll just have to buy the unit in my townhouse complex that’s for sale and move in there 🙂 The crazies keep to themselves here.
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