So I was up at 6 am with little Caity. SHE went to bed about 5:45 yesterday, so I knew this would happen.
She won’t nap. Refuses to settle down…even when she is exhausted. By dinner time she can barely function and then begs to go to bed. I have to change this pattern.
I have been a bit of a meany around here lately….to all. But I am so fed up with some of the patterns around here. I am fed up with Crunchy Husband coming out of his office for a break and making the kids wild with his play. They are then too excited and cry when he goes to leave.  So I have been ‘suggesting’ other ways to hang with the kids….or else.
Adam has been awful with bedtime lately..and is WAY worse with Crunchy Husband – who is more sympathetic and doesn’t see the games being played. I do.
Last night I told them BOTH was bedtime was going to be. Adam had already whined about his daddy coming to play with him. This was at quarter to eight. Nuh uh.
I reminded CH about the time and suggested instead that perhaps reading a BOOK to Adam would be better. I then told Adam that if he complained AFTER the fact or got up, then we would not be going on the preschool field trip. And I meant it.
Adam is a big one for pushing and testing.  CH tends to give without even realizing it. He is just trying to keep the peace and feels he has to give and give to his kids. But you can only do so much.
He is around all the time…he works from home. The kids see him more than most kids do. He needs to be firm about limits and he needs to learn to hang with them without it being a wild screaming wrestling match every time too. Sadly it usually DOES end in tears and me sorting it all out.
I love being the bad cop all the time!
Anyway….my firmness seems to be working and everyone seems to be ‘getting it’ so I will continue this pattern.
We need more boundaries and limits and respect around here. Everyone needs to remember when bed time is and so on and stick to it.
I am away to get ready to go with the preschool down on the skytrain today. We are going to go look at the Cruise ships currently docked. Adam just likes going on the train.
I am sure the other riders will LOVE  20 kids on the train with them. Hee.
So I will see you folks later.
Wendy says
I totally understand what you are going through. I will spare you all the details of our adventures in this area. I am still bad cop, but hubby has stepped up to the plate lately. I just keep telling myself I know what is right no matter if everyone else is against me.
Good job, Momma.
Csara says
Wow, I completely understand what you are going through too. My husband works from home and it is the same exact thing. He comes out to play, our son gets wild and excited and then cries when he leaves. It makes my job so much harder!!! We also have those same bedtime issues. I am just tired of being the bad cop all the time too. waaaaaaaah. 🙂