Talking in Circles With Girls

I honestly can’t think of anything more frustrating.

I attended the kids Christmas concert this morning.  Yes, with Tara.  ANYWAY, it was a full program with junior and senior bands, the choir and a few classes all performing some sort of Christmas homage.  Adam was up three times for his choir, class and music group performances. While Caity just had her one class performance.

They were all great and I truly admire the teachers who put so much effort into helping along the kids musical talents…ALL the kids.

Caity’s class did a ‘mixed media’ bit with paintings that they all held up while each read a segment from a ‘Winter Poem.’   I couldn’t really hear it because Tara chose that time to melt down.  What I had noticed (in passing) was that a girl in her class further along the row was in tears.  Being that this wasn’t a girl I recognized, I casually asked Caity about her and what was wrong when I was picking them up after school.

Me: “So who was that girl at the end of the row crying”

Cait:  “Huh? Who?

Me: “The girl at the other end from you.  She was hiding her face and crying while you guys were setting up?  Was she okay?”

Cait: “What girl?”

…….

Me: “That girl that was at the end of the row, she had on pink leopard pants and was beside Michael and was upset.”

Cait: “Who? Really? What did she look like?”

Me: “Um, long brown hair, pink and black pants, white hoodie, I think. And CRYING.”

Cait: “Oh nobody like that was in our class.  Nobody was crying.”

……..

Me: “Oh well, I just saw a girl in your row for your presentation crying and your teacher took her out of the gym right after, I just sort of wondered what was wrong is all.”

Cait: “Was that ____ ?  She is from Korea.”

Me: “Um nooo, I think she was white not asian.”

Cait: ” MOOOM I said KOREAN not ASIAN.”

……….

Cait: “Was it ________? Was it _________?  Was it _______?”

Me: “Um no, I didn’t know her and that was why I was asking you.”

Cait:” Oh…there was nobody like that…..”

……

Can you imagine trying to get her to identify someone in a police lineup?    So much for trying to be engaged in my kids lives.