but not mine.
Sweet/Salty says it best….and for all of us I think. For me anyway.
There are no comparisons…we all feel pain for our own reasons and are own way. But we can comfort each other and respect the ache in each other’s hearts.
On Saturday CH and got to go out.
It was great. A couple of good friends of ours…..good friends who we have not actually SEEN in over a year due to both our lives being crazy busy and so on, FINALLY managed to nail us down.
They had spare tickets to Sarah Silverman.
We met for dinner and had a lively and fun meal with them. One is a writer/comic/actor. The other is an artist/writer/actor. They are amazingly witty and fun kind people.
It made us both very happy.
Despite the insane weather. We drove through an INSANE hail storm and then heavy rain to get to them.
Sarah was on at the River Rock Casino. A nice looking Casino in Richmond in a stupid difficult place to access and with parking MORONS and valet MORONS who are obviously not trained in HOW TO BE A VALET and especially how to be a valet on a CRAZY BUSY NIGHT.
Aaaaanyway.
It was an ‘odd’ crowd. But I find that at any comic shows and venues. I love stand up. I watch them on TV a fair bit. But I find the crowds at comedy shows to be em….a bit hard looking..a bit rough. The River Rock crowd was no exception. You could see people who looked like Silverman fans…gen x’ers and the like. But there was a lot of really built mean looking guys there and ‘hard’ looking women and all drinking as much as they could from the fancy plastic cups they offered there.
Because of the beer they were up and down throughout the entire shows…..that is a lot of money to spend for beer and bathrooms…and missing an expensive show.
I also HATE hecklers who heckle because they feel it is their right. Save it.
The warm up and Sarah were fun. She is very cute. Very silly. And all in all we had a good laugh.
To bring a connection between this ‘review’ and Sweet/Salty…..there was a few jokes about drowning babies and other things not to do with babies and I swear…I could feel CH and our friends tense up….for me. In case I didn’t find it funny. This may have been totally in my head….but I was thinking it.
I find that some people tend to tread very carefully around the ‘b’ word….that this may be a safer way to deal with ‘sad things.’
And that is ok. But you can almost feel the spotlights turn to focus on you during these moments.
In my mind anyway, I feel that every looks at me under certain circumstances like I am wearing a t-shirt that says ‘I had a dead baby.’
Or that I should….that we all should have some sort of brand or something.
Or is that self flagellation? Is that a need to feed on the attention brought by tragedy?
I don’t feel like that.
I feel like I am ok. Like I am moving on…..
Sometimes it all feels like a dream. Did this happen?
There are pictures from Halloween with me big and pregnant. Having fun.
Was that me?
How can that be when there was no result from it all?
Scott is our little dream.
Adam says that when he is old and dies he wants to be five again so he can be a big brother to Scott in heaven.
Oh my lord. You need to warn people when you have a final sentance like that coming up.
I hope you continue to be ok.
I don’t have any problems with Sarah Silverman (her “I’m f****** Matt Damon” is hilarious) but I wonder if her humor would be different if she had kids? Heck, I’m sure it would be.
oh god. i’m sorry (still). but now, i’m getting to be sorry while crying at adam’s sweetness (again). hugs.
I know what you mean, sometimes I think the awkwardness hangs around longer than you want it too.
About 16 months after I lost my aunt in a plane crash, they had a big announcement at church and passed out kleanex’s and everything. It really ended up being rather stupid, because everyone was all prepared for this horrible thing and it ended up being nothing like that.
Then I was talking to some friends after church, and I said something about being really tense, that the kleanex made me feel like something awful was about to happen and everyone would be upset. And my friend said “yeah, I was thinking their must have been a plane crash.”
Then she, and my other friends started back peddling. she even eventually apologized after weeks of weirdness between us all. The thing was, it wasn’t me. It was them, they had the problem with it. I knew they didn’t mean it to hurt me, and I don’t know, to me, my loss is so personal that I just have an overwhelming feeling that people who say somewhat insensitive things arent saying it to hurt my feelings they are saying it beccause they just can’t imagine.
hang in their sweetie
Yeah that post was perfect. I tried to get it listed at Petroville but it seems I can’t tell time.
I am glad you guys had a good time last weekend.
Frig. Where did Adam get so smart? Oh, hang on… His mother!