As Crunchy Husband and I have plowed through this rather rough time for our family….you start to notice the TRUE differences between you and your partner.
Crunchy Husband has noted that I appear stronger and more together when facing a family crisis. I think in part this might be true..but again, this is NOT my mom.  Nor did I just bury my dad.
My dad passed away when I was about 13 and he was in Scotland and I here, and a letter about his demise didn’t really feel ‘real.’ Â This is real.
However, it is true in the sense that, I am more practical about these things and more ‘used’ to these things. I have a large extended family. EVERYONE stays in touch and so there has been births, illnesses and deaths dealt with throughout my life. His family has no real contact with any extended family. He has not even heard the ‘grown up’ talk as a kid. He is very sheltered.
Another difference I have noticed…and again, this is not a bad thing…in fact I find it rather touching…is that while I am very independent and always set to go deal or do something on my own (the passports!), Crunchy Husband plans things as a family. Â He prefers safety in numbers where I am – I suppose – more used to going it alone.
I forget I am someone to lean on.
Mind you, I get a tad confused because he also has that tendency to see MY rants as things that need taken care of and fixed where HIS rants are just that – rants- getting stuff of his chest so he feels better.
It gets a bit confusing. I confuse his determination with just being plain old pissed at me and then I get huffy and edgy and then breathe a big sigh of relief when I finally ‘get it’
This then boggles or irritates him because he can’t believe the MASSIVE transformation in my demeanor.
Example: The passport thing today. He was happy that it was easy…he was happy to do it with me…kids in tow…..and I was waiting for the other shoe to drop, and there wasn’t any apart from him thinking I was a tad pathetic to go from snarky anger yesterday to sunshine and roses today.
Are we NOT the King and Queen of open and clear communication?
Hey at least you try, most people don’t even bother.
You’ve made some very wise perceptions.
I guess that makes you guys a normal couple. My husband likes to rant too but always wants to “fix” everything when I want to let off steam. Why can’t they understand that all we want is for them to listen? Especially when it seems they want the same thing?
Hi Crunchie,
Just wanted to give you the heads up, I’m switching my blog to private…if you’d like to be able to still have access to it, please email me your email address and I’ll add it to the list of readers who can have access to the blog.
If not, take care blog buddy,
Michelle