I have been in a bit of a foggy fugue or something these last few days.   Just found myself in a really bad mood all weekend.  Poor family took the brunt of it.我一直在一个位元的一个雾赋格曲或一些这些过去数天，只要发现自己在一个真正的心情不好，所有的周末。贫穷的家庭，采取了首当其冲。

I think it mostly boiled down to weather and being tired and just really feeling the need for quiet time.  Something I have not had much of.我觉得这大多归结为天气和老生常谈的厌倦和公正的感觉，真的需要安静的时间。东西，我并没有太大的。

However, I feel selfish and guilty for being remotely cranky when compared to Crunchy Husband, my last few days have been a doddle.不过，我觉得自私和承认被远程cranky时相比， crunchy丈夫，我过去数天，已成为轻而易举。

He has been busting his butt clearing, sanding and painting his mom’s place.  Not fun.他一直在破坏他的屁股结算，砂画和他妈妈的地方。都不好玩。

I feel really bad for my low tolerance lately, but what can I do?  At least I am in a bit of a better mood now.  Cept I think CH is mad at me and hasn’t said specifically why!!!我觉得真的不好，我低，耐受性，最近，但我能做些什么呢？至少我在一个位元一个更好的心情现在。化学强化一级处理，我认为你是疯牛病在我并没有说具体为什么！

I tried to make it up to the kids today by taking them to a petting zoo and fun fair over at Queens Park in New Westminster.我试图使它直至今天，孩子们以他们一畜动物园和乐趣公平超过在皇后公园 ，在新的西敏寺。

Despite the pouring rain it was nice to get out and just TRY to chill…and the kids did behave.尽管遭遇强风，暴雨，这是尼斯失控和公正的尝试冷… …和孩子们做的行为。

Last night, after dinner with CH’s Grandmother, we headed down to Spanish Banks , specifically the Dog Beach.昨晚，吃过晚饭后与你的祖母，我们为首的下降到西班牙的银行 ，特别是狗的泳滩游泳。

We felt bad as Callie hadn’t had much play time lately with us all being busy or tired.我们认为，恶劣的callie并未有很大的发挥的时间，最近与我们所有正在忙碌或疲惫。

This is her cringing and looking for a ‘poor doggy tummy rub’  This is AFTER she LOST HER SQUEAKER at the beach.  Yes.  We discovered that our part lab does not like the water.  The toy went a teeny bit too far out and that was it.这是她cringing寻找一个『欠佳小犬tummy摩擦' ，这是后，她失去了她的squeaker在沙滩上。是，我们发现我们的一部分，劳顾会不喜欢水。玩具到1 teeny位太远了，并是它。

The kids howled in despair as we watched it drift out into English Bay.孩子们howled在绝望中，我们看到它漂移到英语湾。

Poor Callie.穷人callie 。

While I am at it…here are the rest of our ZOO.而我在这…这里是休息，我们的动物园。

This is Aurora.  HE was our first cat as a couple.   CH fell in love with him at the SPCA.  This is the one with no colon.这是极光。他是我们的第一猫，作为一对夫妇。你已经深深爱上与他在爱护动物协会，这是一个没有结肠癌。

This is Phoebe.   She was our second cat from the SPCA.  This photo is very rare.  She hardly ever leaves CH’s lap or office.  She LOVES CH.这是菲比，她是我们的第二个猫从爱护动物协会。这张照片是非常罕见的，她几乎没有离开你的大腿或办公室。她爱你。

And finally, we have Crystal.   She kept moving…I will have to try and catch her in repose.   She was my Mother in Law’s cat.  She lives in our bedroom and our bed.最后，我们有水晶，她不断移动… …我将设法赶上她在repose ，她是我的母亲在法律上的猫，她的生命在我们的卧室和我们的床。

So between all them and two kids and two adults…it gets a bit crazy and CRUNCHY around here as you can imagine.因此，他们之间的所有和两个孩子和两个大人… …它得到了一点疯狂和crunchy左右，在这里你可以想见。

I just stocked up on vacuum bags today…drifts of hair everywhere.我只是库存对真空袋…今天漂移的头发，无处不在。

I suppose I SHOULD actually go and clean.我想我应该去，其实和清洁。

Oh and I didn’t get the job I was hoping to get.  It would have paid for my trip to BlogHer.  So being that I am in debt up to my eyeballs and CH doesn’t have steady work at the moment, it is going to take a miracle for me to get there.哦，我没有得到我的工作是希望得到，这会付出我的旅程，以blogher ，所以被我在债务达到我眼球和CH没有稳定的工作在现阶段，这是要采取一个奇迹，我得到有。

Sigh.感叹。

But I ain’t giving up yet.但我是不会放弃。

I really really want to go.我真的真的想要去的。

All over the blogosphere today you will be reading about the causes that are important to everyone.所有以上的博客，今天你会读约的原因，很重要的每一个人。

The BlogCatalog is promoting BLOGGERS UNITE .该blogcatalog是促进博客团结起来 。 A Day for all of us to blog about HUMAN RIGHTS.一天对我们所有人来说，以博客人权。

In all honesty, I don’t even know where to begin.在所有诚实，我什至不知道从何处开始。

There are so many causes and issues and problems that we are facing right now.有这么多的原因和问题，我们面对的问题的权利。

From horrendous disasters in Burma and China, to the horror in Darfur and the unjust war in Iraq, and the mess that is Afghanistan.从可怕的灾害，在缅甸和中国，恐怖，在达尔富尔和不公正的伊拉克战争，和这个烂摊子是阿富汗。

From Religious persecution, to political prisoners, slavery, the list goes on and on.从宗教迫害，政治犯，奴役，不胜枚举，并就。

BlogHer is doing an amazing job with their BlogHers Act and up here, BlogHers Act Canada to promote issues that are important to us and help spread awareness. blogher是做一个了不起的工作与他们的bloghers法和在这里， bloghers法加拿大 ，以促进问题是我们的重要客户，并帮助传播意识。

But..it really feels a bit intimidating.但..真的觉得有点恐吓。

So many causes.这么多的原因。

So many problems.这么多的问题。

Even here at home we are having issues that would be defined as ‘human rights abuses.’在这里，甚至在家里，我们有问题会被界定为'侵犯人权的行为。

In Canada, at lest 20 people have died after being tasered by police.在加拿大，以免在20人已经死亡后，被tasered警方。 The big question is ; was the tasering REALLY necessary or just another example of excessive force and lack of concern being shown by our police forces.最大的问题是;是tasering确有必要，或只是另一个例子，过度的武力和缺乏关注，正表明我们的警察部队。

In Vancouver, we have the POOREST postal code in the country.在温哥华，我们有最贫穷的邮递区号在该国。 The Downtown Eastside is a pit of misery… .homelessness, drug use, prostitution and mental health issues…all wrapped up in one small area…an area that the powers that be would rather sweep away than deal with.市中心的东区是一个深潭之中… … 。无家可归，使用药物，卖淫和心理健康问题的信息…所有包裹在一个小范围内…一个领域的权力，而不是将被扫除，比处理。

So where do we even begin?那么，我们甚至开始？

Giving to charities may make us feel good…but HOW much help is it on a global scale?给慈善机构，可能使我们觉得好… …但有多少帮助，是它在全球范围内？

How do we CHANGE things instead of just putting band aids on growing issues and problems?我们如何改变的东西，而不是只把带艾滋病对日益增长的问题和困难？

We speak up.我们说出来。

We protest.我们抗议。

We campaign.我们运动。

We push our politicians and make them listen to us.我们把我们的政治家，让他们听我们的。 WE tell them what is important and what WE want to see fixed.我们告诉他们什么是重要的和我们希望看到的固定的。

Our voices are our most powerful weapons.我们的声音是我们最强大的武器。

In a democratic nation, those leaders were elected by US…they are supposed to work for US…therefore they need to act on OUR issues and wishes.在一个民主国家，这些领导人当选美国… …他们是为了工作，为美国…因此，他们需要采取行动对我们的问题和愿望。

So yes, blog about things…but also write to politicians, start所以是的，博客的事情… …但也写信给政界人士，开始

I have a new Chiropractor.我有一个新的脊医。 Shhh don’t tell the old one. shhh不要告诉老一。

I originally picked him because he is like FIVE MINUTES from my house.我本来钦点他，因为他是一样，五分钟，从我的房子。

But now, after just two visits.但现在，经过刚才的两次访问。 We love him.我们爱他。

And not just because of the cool and deft way he undid my BRA on my first visit.  AND snapped it back together…oooh no!不仅是因为该冷静和娴熟的方式，他undid我的胸罩对我第一次访问。和抢购回来一起… oooh没有！

We love his electric fire place and nice leather furniture.我们爱他的电气火灾的地点和尼斯皮革家具。 I always want to just bring coffee now and stay awhile.我一直想刚才带来的咖啡，现在和逗留一段时间。

He is your total cool hip dad.他是您的总冷静髋关节爸爸。

He brings his son to work…he has a special room for him and his nanny.他带来了他的儿子工作…他有一个特别的空间，他和他的保姆。

This means that you too can bring your kids.这就是说，你也可以带同您的小孩。

How cool is that?如何冷静的是什么？

At first I was rather unnerved by his open concept set up…..BIG windows showing me laid out like a side of beef on his table…only a partition between me and the next patient.起初我是相当unnerved他的开放的概念，成立了… ..大的Windows显示了我像一个方面的牛肉，他表…只有一个分区之间我和旁边的病人。

But it is kind of fun….there we all are….being cold lasered or having the table swooshing around while he clicks away and discusses the great teaching of a Doctor Cox.但它是种乐趣… … 。有我们都是… … 。正在冷lasered或有表swooshing左右，而他的点击距离，并讨论了伟大的教学医生考克斯。 Who, apparently had or has - I have no idea if the dude is alive or what - the best treatment for problem butts like me!谁，显然，或有-我不知道如果d ude是活的或什么-最好的治疗问题bu tts和我一样！

Of course, he is costing me a fortune that I forgot to budget for….my tail bone was really bothering me and so he is now into MEGA treatments till things ease up…ease up on my wallet…I assume he means.当然，他是我的成本计算的财富，我忘了预算…我的尾巴骨是真的困扰我，所以他现在是到巨型治疗，直至事情缓和…缓和对我的钱包… …我以为他的意思。

Oh well.哦。

It seems to work and Caity thoroughly enjoyed hanging with his son and nanny.看来，工作和caity彻底享有悬与他的儿子和保姆。

She wants to come back tomorrow.她要回来的明天。

So while I suppose I could be sulking that my Mother’s Day is not filled with brunches in restaurants surrounded by screaming kids and mom’s pretending they are having a lovely day, or sulking at the lack of flowers or spa treatments, etc….I won’t.因此，虽然我想我能够sulking ，我的母亲节是不是充满brunches在餐厅四周尖叫的孩子和妈妈的假装他们有一个可爱的天，或sulking在缺乏鲜花或温泉治疗，等…我不会。

I won’t sulk because there was no breakfast in bed or that my house looks like a war zone.我不会sulk ，因为没有早餐在床上或认为我的房子看起来像一场战争区。

I recall it being against the law to clean the bathroom on Mother’s Day.我记得，它正在对法律，以清洁的浴室对母亲的一天。

I won’t sulk though.我不会sulk虽然。

I have a great mom who gave me a card saying I was a better mom than she was..which is total bull, but I am glad that I have her fooled.我有一个伟大的妈妈谁给了我一卡说，我是一个更好的妈妈比她..这是总牛市，但我很高兴我有她的愚弄。

Today Crunchy Husband spends Mother’s Day helping his brother clean out his childhood home.今天crunchy丈夫花的母亲节，帮助他的兄弟清理他的童年的家。 The home of his mother.自他的母亲。 The mother that died last year.母亲说，在去年去世。

He is going through piles of stuff….the flotsam and jestam of a life that was done to early.他正在经历桩的东西… 。浮罗特萨姆和jestam一个生命，这是做早期。 Too soon.太早。

He is spending his weekend looking at the things that were important to his mom to hang on to…even if it seems insignificant to us now…it was too important for her to let go.他是在周末的开支，他看的东西，重要的，他妈妈挂在至… …即使看来微不足道，我们现在… …它太重要了，她放手。 There are receipts, cards, photos,…everything.有收据，身份证，照片， … …一切。

I wish I could be there today for him.我想我能有今天的他。 He really needs someone there to help…to control the emotion…to stay on track….to step away from the memories.他真的需要有人来帮助… …以控制情感…留在轨道上… … 。加强远离的记忆。

But ours kids do not have the patience for such jobs.但我们的孩子不有耐心等工作。 Even when I was giving them jobs yesterday….they were getting impatient and cranky.甚至当我给他们的工作…昨天，他们分别得不耐烦和cranky 。

I hate not being able to help him.我恨未能帮助他。

I will do my best to keep the home front organized and to not be TOO snarky with the kids and keep them busy.我会尽我所能继续居前举办，并不会太snarky与孩子和他们保持忙碌。

I will just be there for him….on Mother’s Day.我会在那里为他… … 。对母亲的一天。

I really am not the person I used to be.我真的很不是人，我从前。

No..not transformed by being a mom etc…I just don’t have it together like  I used to.  And it bothers me.号。不会转化作为一个妈妈等… ，我只是没有一起像我所用。它困扰我。

I received an e-vite though urbanmoms.ca to attend a skin care product launch down at a big department store downtown.我收到了电子商务维生素E虽然urbanmoms.ca出席护肤产品推出的下降在一个大型百货商店市中心。

The instructions WERE a bit vague..but I also didn’t clarify them like I should.  I didn’t RESEARCH it enough.该指示有点模糊..但我也没有说明他们想我应该，我没有研究就足够了。

This is unusual for me.这是不寻常的我。

I invited my mom to come with me.我邀请了我的妈妈来跟我。

We went early so we could have dinner and a blether.我们去年初所以我们可以有晚餐和一场blether 。

And blether we did.  FOR A LONG TIME.和blether我们没有。相当长的时间。

NO interruptions.  No topics off limits.  We just enjoyed each others company.没有中断。没有主题小康的限制，我们只得到了对方的公司。

It was a real pleasure for me.这是一个真正的我很高兴。

Then we went to find the ‘event’….it wasn’t where it should have been.  I could not think of where else it SHOULD have been.然后我们去寻找'事件' … …这是不是它应已，我不能认为在何处，否则，应已。

We left.我们离开。

I think we just looked in the wrong places.我认为我们只是看着在错误的地方。

I feel dumb.我觉得哑巴。

But I wasn’t that disappointed.  I spent an evening with my mom.   With no time constraints and we were totally relaxed.但我并不失望。我花了一个晚上与我的妈妈。没有时间限制和我们是完全放松。

I suppose that was our Mother’s Day treat.我想这是我们的母亲节对待。

So.   I am not the same person I used to be.   I am way more flaky and forgetful.  I lose things.  I don’t plan things out like I did.所以，我不是同一人，我要我的方式更多的片状和健忘的，我失去的东西，我不计划的东西，像我。

People look shocked at my mess up’s.人们期待震惊，我一塌糊涂，最多的。

They expect more from me.他们期望更多的从我。

However.  I find that these ‘changes’ don’t really bother me as much as they should, or would have.不过，我觉得这些'变化'真的不打扰我一样，因为他们应该，或会。

I am a lot more RELAXED about stuff than I used to be.  I don’t freak as much about everything being ‘just so.’我有很多更宽松的约的东西比我以前是我不怪胎一样，什么都被'只是使。

Crunchy Husband will laugh hilariously about this…but really…compared to ‘before’…I am waaay more relaxed about things. crunchy丈夫会笑hilariously这… …但是真的…相比， '前' … …我waaay更宽松的事情。

Life changes us.我们生活的变化。

Ages changes us.年龄的变化，我们。

Circumstances change us.情况发生变化，我们。

That is cool.这是很酷。

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These amazing women started up this site  called glow in the woods . 这些惊人的妇女开办这个网站所谓的辉光在树林中 。

It is for mom’s like me who have suffered a loss of a child one way or another.这是妈妈的我一样，谁也遭受了损失了一个小孩的一种或另一种方式。

It is a beautiful site.  Perfect in my eyes.它是一个美丽的网站。完美的在我的眼睛。

It feels safe and comfortable and  gentle.它感到安全和舒适和温柔。

It doesn’t overwhelm you with each other’s grief.   But the love and support that is felt there is like a warm hug.它没有压倒你与对方的悲痛，但爱护与支持，就是觉得有像一个温暖的拥抱。

Reading through the site and peoples posts and discussions was soothing to me.读通过网站和人民的职位和讨论，是安抚我。

I am in a good place these days and I want to build on that and create some sort of reserve of strength, calm and happiness.我在一个好地方，这些天来，我想这个基础上创造某种形式的后备力量，平静和幸福。

I think that site will be a HUGE help to me.我认为，网站将是一个巨大的帮助我。

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I am also still twittering like mad.   Please find me so we can follow each other.我也仍然twittering想疯了。请找到我，所以我们可以仿效对方。

I have also noticed a growing increase in letters from PR companies wanting me to talk about their stuff on my sites.我也注意到日益增加的信件从公关公司要我谈论他们的东西对我的网站。

Now…if a product or service is cool or useful,  I don’t mind doing this.  However, it IS free advertising and free flogging of something and I don’t really feel THAT generous all the time.  I also LOVE doing book reviews etc…Just have been a tad lazy lately.现在… …如果一种产品或服务是冷静的或有用的，我不介意这样做，但它是免费的广告和免费笞刑的东西，和我真的不觉得慷慨的所有时间，我也爱做书评等…刚才已成为泰特懒惰，最近。

So PR people…I know I am not one of the big guns out there..but please either offer to PAY me some sort of advertising fee OR offer some sort of special deal to my readers..SOMETHING.因此，公关人… …我知道我不是其中一个大枪在那里..但请提供支付我某种形式的广告费，或提供某种特殊处理，以我的读者..一些。

‘Kay…that is all for now. '凯…这是所有现在。

Following up the post about the upcoming War Bride Exhibit , my own Mom decided to share with us, the story of how HER mom and dad met. 跟进后即将到来的战争新娘展览 ，我自己的妈妈，决定要与我们分享，故事如何，她爸爸妈妈满足。

Thanks Mom. 感谢妈妈。

I am the daughter of a WWII ‘War Bride’. My Scottish mother met my father, a Canadian soldier, at “The Palais De Danse” in Edinburgh during one of his leaves. The Palais had seen better days. It used to be quite grand apparently. It had a sprung dance floor and a balcony running around the large floor where you could watch the dancers. Before the war people used to arrive in carriages, and fur and jewel bedecked women swanned in on the arms of handsome tuxedo clad men, or so I am told. The wars changed all that and in the 1940’s it was a hang out for the ‘sojers’ to meet Scottish lassies. I just remember it as a place to go “dancin’” and meet boys in the 1960’s. It had a bad reputation by then and I was not supposed to go but did anyway. Sadly it closed down and became, like many others, a Bingo Hall. I don’t know even if it is still there.我的女儿，一个二战的战争新娘' ，我的母亲在苏格兰会见了我的父亲，一名加拿大士兵，在“宫德danse ”在爱丁堡期间，他的一个叶片。宫看到更好的日子。它用来相当盛大显然，它有一个异军突起的舞池和一个阳台四处大型地下那里任何人都可以观赏舞者。战争前的人用来在抵达车厢，和毛皮和宝石bedecked妇女swanned在对军火的英俊男子，身着燕尾服，或因此，有人告诉我。战争改变了一切，并在1940年的这是一个坑，为' sojers ' ，以满足苏格兰lassies ，我只是没有记错的话，作为一个地方可去“ dancin ”和满足男孩在1960年的。它有一个坏的声誉，然后和我是不是去，但无论如何。可悲的，它倒闭，并成为许多其他国家一样，一宾果大会堂。我不知道，即使是依然存在。

My dad was not a dancer, being a big Saskatchewan farm boy, but he wanted to meet girls so made himself go. On this occasion he looked ‘across a crowded room’ and spotted my mum and her lovely, auburn hair and was instantly smitten. He plucked up courage to go over and ask her to dance. He remembers the song that they danced to was Bing Crosby singing “Where the Blue of the night meets the gold of the day, someone waits for me”. He tells me that after they met, they were inseparable and every leave he got was spent in Edinburgh with my mum. You have to realize that this was war time and a different generation, the blackout was on, no lights allowed anywhere, no sign posts, food and clothing rationing and people being shipped out at a moments notice.我爸爸是不是一个舞蹈家，作为一个大萨斯喀彻温省的农场男孩，但他想，以满足女孩，让自己去。这一次，他期待'一刀切一个拥挤的房间和发现我妈妈和她的可爱，奥本的头发，并即时smitten他救起了勇气去超过，并要求她跳舞，他记得这首歌，他们跳舞的是平克劳斯贝的歌声“ ，而蓝色的夜会见黄金的一天，有人在等待我” ，他告诉我，会见后，他们，他们是密不可分的每一个离开，他得到的花费在爱丁堡与我妈妈，你要知道，这是战争的时间和不同的一代，停电是对，没有灯光，让在任何地方，没有任何迹象的职位，食品和服装配给和人民正在运出在一个时刻，恕不另行通知。

They were married in 1943 in my mum’s house by the local minister. Being war time, it was very difficult to find nice things and my mum was married in a short, pale blue rayon dress and she could only find a pair of heavy shoes to wear with it. Of course Dad was in his uniform. It was even difficult to find enough ingredients for a wedding cake with the severe rationing that was in place at the time. I was born in 1944 in Edinburgh while dad was away and he actually didn’t get to see me until I was 1 year old.他们结婚，在1943年在我妈妈的房子由当地部长。正在战争的时间，这是很难找到很好的事情和我妈妈结婚，在很短的，浅蓝粘胶着装和她只能找到一个对重型鞋穿它。当然，父亲是在他的制服。有人甚至难以找到足够的成分为结婚蛋糕与严重的配给，这是在发生的时间。我出生于1944年在爱丁堡，而父亲是远离和他实际上没有得到见我，直到我是1岁。

The war ended in 1945 and dad was sent back to Canada to be demobbed. He bought a veterans house in Vancouver and sent for my mum and I to join him in 1946. We sailed from South Hampton on the Queen Mary which was almost brand new but still fitted out for war service. My mum thought it was very grand and sent a post card of the ship