My husband brought this article to my attention. It was being ripped apart on an an entertaining but misogynistic forum he reads. But I think they were justified.
Read the article and then imagine if it had been written by a man instead of a woman. Imagine the big outcry there would have been.
Why is there not an outcry…..or do you think she was right?
“And when I got home, I seethed. I couldn’t walk across the living room
without tripping over some plastic toy or container of wipes. The baby
was in the same little nightgown she’d slept in the night before. There
wasn’t a hint of dinner on the horizon. He was home all day—couldn’t he
at least run a freaking load of laundry?”
Would this statement NOT raise your hackles if it was written by a man? A husband?
I find articles like this a very sad example of what a relationship is supposed to be about. The narcissism and selfishness appall me .
Sure, be upset that he isn’t doing what YOU imagined him to do. But DO remember he is raising YOUR child and enabling YOU to have your career. What would she have done if he had gotten a great job. What would have happened if he got a great job AND then told her they had to relocate??
The irony here is she is an editor of a Pregnancy magazine and blog!
When you read this stuff. AND the chic lit. AND all those ‘tongue in cheek’ books about marriage and relationships…you really have to wonder how on earth communication and understanding could have gotten WORSE in the 21st Century instead of better.
People seem to have gotten so self centered. Modern and young (and hip, I suppose) parents seem more concerned about their image and connections vs. family and home.
This article and show seems to have sent indignant ripples across some of the mommy blogosphere just now.
And I personally think they are making stories where they don’t exist. But it seems to have cheesed a bunch of people of and once again shown up some of the cliquishness on the blogosphere.
I have no problem really if a bunch of friends who are moms arrange for get together and enjoy a glass of wine. But I don’t consider that a playdate either.
A playdate is something I set up for my kids. So they can play with kids that THEY like. If I like the mom, then great….a bonus for me!
And I do have a few fun playdate friends out there and do enjoy getting together with them. But the focus is the kids.
So I think people have different ideas about what a playdate is. I also think people have different views about what spending a day being a mom is all about.
Some like to pack their days with activities…the less time at home the better.
Me? Not so much.
Sure I like to make sure the kids are doing SOME fun activities and playdates. But I also enjoy time at home with them where (in between blogging!!) I set em up for painting, crafts or we get out for walks or bike riding, etc.
But that is me. And I cannot judge other people. So really I cannot judge ANYONE for having something stronger than juice to drink at a playdate. What I do question is, what is the purpose of the playdate to them? Who comes first here?
And before we freak about motherhood does not mean giving up your life for your children…yes, I agree..but I also think substance has to take over just a smidgen from style. Somethings DO have to change.
Or is that just me?
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Edited AGAIN to add…..This Woman who is quickly becoming my muse and mentor. She is a wise woman. And I thank her for linking to my little rant.
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